OK, first of all, I accidentally posted this on
the Mews' blog and they raised a hissy-fit about it (even Marley), so I
had to move it to MY blog (here). In fact, high-level compensation
negotiations resulted in the Mews getting a whole handful of treats this
morning AND I had to skip breakfast. Personally, I think they could
have held out for HAM, but I didn't tell them I had some. Second, These
are events from yesterday, but I already had a post up for yesterday
and didn't want to bury it. Third, because some of my friends were kind
enough to leave comments and they (the comments, not my friends) will
disappear as I move this post, I am adding those comments to the end (blue).
My watch battery died just about on schedule. And few things will
get me to go RIGHT OUT like getting a replacement for that. Having a
non-working watch on my wrist drives me nuts. So I go to this one
jeweler all the time for it. The guy always remarks that he hasn't seen
one of "those" old watches in decades (Dad bought it for me when I was 15). I never remind him that I have
come in there for a new battery every year for 10 years.
They
lost one of the pins and suggested I buy a new one. No way. They lost
it, they replace it. They do that almost every time. I think they just want
to sell watch pins. You would think the floor should be covered in lost watch pins...
I have a velcro strap for the
watch and it is most convenient for me that it connects in a particular
direction. Apparently, it is not the way most watchmakers naturally
orient it. I told the clerk not to reverse it, but they did anyway. So
I had to hand the watch back and tell them to reverse it. They grumbled
as usual.
It's a technical thing. The velcro band
has to go through a skinny rectangle loop. Pushing at it on the far
side of my wrist just doesn't work. Pushing it against my body works
well. Yes, it is opposite the way other straps work. But the jeweler
ALWAYS reverses it. I go through this every time.
Well, the watch is working again and oriented correctly for me. I'm happy.
Sister
emails that she is going nuts getting Dad the stuff he wants and
talking to him at visits. Well, "welcome to my (former) world". No
evil laughs, but some moderate chuckles... She really didn't believe
what I told her about Dad before. I feel like a climate-warming
advocate whose critics are suddenly shocked that their pet polar bear is
suddenly walking through slush instead of solid ice...
But
you know what I enjoyed about going out to get the watch battery? I
didn't have to tell anyone were I was going or when I would be back.
I
skipped lunch today just because I COULD and made dinner at 8 pm just
because I COULD. Freedom is wonderful. It's 5:30 am now (just because
I CAN stay up late again with music on loud) and I may just not go to
bed tonight (just because I can) again or go to bed now and get up at 2
pm tomorrow if I want to..
Its just damn FREEDOM...
Previous comments...
[Fuzzy Tales] I chuckled over this...Not because
I've yet had to deal with having an aging parent live with me, but just
because, when my ex and I divorced, the freedom to come and go as I
pleased was so fantastic. Even now, 12+ years later and on my own still,
I revel in it. Well, except I do work full time. But my "off" time is
my own and it's something I still appreciate. So enjoy it fully! :-)
[The Florida Furkids] Enjoy your freedom (and your watch!)
[Megan] It's good to stop and appreciate the little things in life! LOL
[Katie Isabella] I hear ya, Mark...
[Sparkle] WHAT?! You don't tell the kitties where you are going or when you'll be back?! How will they know when to expect you?
[Shaggy and Scout] The kitties don't care which
way the watch goes as long as the pettings aren't delayed. You sound
like a kid in his first year of college with new found freedom! It's
hard not to say "I told you so" isn't it.
[Brian] Hey, us cats always have the freedom to not give a hoot about anything if we want!
I had a personally awful experience with Canon Customer Service, so I would never buy their products again myself.
Friday, April 26, 2013
Thursday, April 25, 2013
An Informal Dinner Engagement
Megan left a comment last Thursday that included "The tribe of women who are planning to move in to enjoy your cooking now that you're Dad has moved have asked me to ask you what day next week it would suit you best for us all to arrive. Don't go to too much trouble - no need to re-decorate or anything. Just a thorough spring clean, vases of fresh flowers and a stock of chocolates will be enough. LOL".
Well, the new oven arrived last week and I have tested it out and Spring-cleaning will take a while, but I can do a decent general cleaning in a couple of days. But for planning purposes, let's say Monday 29th. I will still have some of the front yard fragrant daffodils to place in vases then.
Now as to the food: I don't often make appetizers, but I think I can manage some peeled celery stuffed with chive cream cheese and some marinated mushrooms. For the main dish, how about stir-fried shrimp and asparagus in a mild horseradish/wine sauce over herbed saffron rice, and a heart of buttercrunch lettuce salad with cucumbers and cherry tomatoes with fresh Italian dressing?
For desserts, I have Tollhouse cookies, Lindor dark chocolate truffles, Lindor extra dark chocolate truffles, and Van Otis assorted Swiss fudge. Which to choose... Wait, we will have one of each! I hope Old Vine Zinfandel is satisfactory in the wine department. If not, I always keep some semi-dry Riesling in the wine cooler too. It off-sets the sweetness of chocolate well.
For background music, I suggest classical (Ravel, Debussy, and Prokofiev), but I also have 60s/70s Broadway musicals, Simon&Garfunkel, or Chariots of Fire and Tubular Bells if your tastes run in that direction. There is some older jazz and swing music around too.
As it will be strictly an early evening social supper, casual (but appropriate) dress is suggested. We are not formal here. Attention to the Mews is not only permitted but encouraged and a bowl of cat treats will be available for tossing to them for mutual enjoyment. Iza has offered to conduct personal Garden Tours for any guests who wish to arrive early for that purpose.
I had a personally awful experience with Canon Customer Service, so I would never buy their products again myself.
Well, the new oven arrived last week and I have tested it out and Spring-cleaning will take a while, but I can do a decent general cleaning in a couple of days. But for planning purposes, let's say Monday 29th. I will still have some of the front yard fragrant daffodils to place in vases then.
Now as to the food: I don't often make appetizers, but I think I can manage some peeled celery stuffed with chive cream cheese and some marinated mushrooms. For the main dish, how about stir-fried shrimp and asparagus in a mild horseradish/wine sauce over herbed saffron rice, and a heart of buttercrunch lettuce salad with cucumbers and cherry tomatoes with fresh Italian dressing?
For desserts, I have Tollhouse cookies, Lindor dark chocolate truffles, Lindor extra dark chocolate truffles, and Van Otis assorted Swiss fudge. Which to choose... Wait, we will have one of each! I hope Old Vine Zinfandel is satisfactory in the wine department. If not, I always keep some semi-dry Riesling in the wine cooler too. It off-sets the sweetness of chocolate well.
For background music, I suggest classical (Ravel, Debussy, and Prokofiev), but I also have 60s/70s Broadway musicals, Simon&Garfunkel, or Chariots of Fire and Tubular Bells if your tastes run in that direction. There is some older jazz and swing music around too.
As it will be strictly an early evening social supper, casual (but appropriate) dress is suggested. We are not formal here. Attention to the Mews is not only permitted but encouraged and a bowl of cat treats will be available for tossing to them for mutual enjoyment. Iza has offered to conduct personal Garden Tours for any guests who wish to arrive early for that purpose.
I had a personally awful experience with Canon Customer Service, so I would never buy their products again myself.
Tuesday, April 23, 2013
Yesterday Yardwork
OK, the first thing I decided to do was get rid of the dandelions. I have one of those forked dandelion diggers, but the height was uncomfortable and it is too small to get at the roots accurately. But I also have a 2' handled mattock!
It sure works better than those dandelion forks! I spent an hour chopping deep to cut the roots. Most will die from lack of leaves. Some will survive, but I will just go around the yard and chop them deep again. They will die eventually. It was actually easier than spraying with herbicides. Those would kill all the lawn crocuses anyway.
I set up the 4 way hose controller too. The green hose reaches to the lawn around the back of the house, the black one connects to some drip irrigation hoses in the flowerbeds, the red one goes along the fence to the back gardens, and the jet nozzle is great for cleaning stuff.
The apples are flowering. They will produce many apples. I wont get any. The squirrels will take most of them green. I think I may just remove them. But I could put some boards across the top and drape chicken wire over them. That would keep the squirrels out and still let the bees in to pollinate the flowers (I think).
One of the 3 pressure-treated posts on the 20 year old garden trellis broke last winter. It rotted finally at ground level. It was set in cement, so it would take hours to dig up. I pounded in a metal pipe instead. I intend to make a left-rotated "T" shape |-- wood construction and drill a hole through it to set over the pipe. Don't worry if it doesn't make sense. It does and I'll show a picture later. I plan to take all the posts out in the fall and use pipes to support the trellis instead.
You see a lot of vines growing in at the beds. They come from the neighbors yard. I will HAVE to use herbicides to kill the ones in my yard and spray through the fence to beat them back a bit. I've tried digging them up but they seem to have deep roots and are extremely invasive. My neighbor won't notice; he doesn't actually live there anymore. He lives with his girlfriend elsewhere (a sad tale of infidelity, suicide and a broken home).
The next project is replacing the rotting wood sides of my hauling trailer...
And I want to raise a complaint. I bought a new Canon camera in February. The battery has never lasted more then 3 days (about 50 shots) before needing recharging. I merely asked them for a replacement battery. They refuse. After some extremely unsuccessful and unfriendly emails with Canon, I promised them I would mention their unfriendly customer relations on my blog. So I will do that. Often.
DON'T BUY ANYTHING FROM CANON! THEIR CUSTOMER SERVICE SUCKS.
It sure works better than those dandelion forks! I spent an hour chopping deep to cut the roots. Most will die from lack of leaves. Some will survive, but I will just go around the yard and chop them deep again. They will die eventually. It was actually easier than spraying with herbicides. Those would kill all the lawn crocuses anyway.
The next project is replacing the rotting wood sides of my hauling trailer...
And I want to raise a complaint. I bought a new Canon camera in February. The battery has never lasted more then 3 days (about 50 shots) before needing recharging. I merely asked them for a replacement battery. They refuse. After some extremely unsuccessful and unfriendly emails with Canon, I promised them I would mention their unfriendly customer relations on my blog. So I will do that. Often.
DON'T BUY ANYTHING FROM CANON! THEIR CUSTOMER SERVICE SUCKS.
Monday, April 22, 2013
Dad at the "Home"
Well, it's been 4 days now since Dad left. Brother has visited once and Sister a couple of times. They say he is settling in well and talking to the other residents.
The Washington Post newspaper had a good series of articles about elder dementia. Things like (paraphrased) my elderly mother said she saw giraffes in the yard and when we suggested maybe she saw some deer, said I know what giraffes look like. Then they pointed out that asking detailed question sometimes helps the false memory fade quickly. Like "which way were they going, what were they eating, etc". Not "no. you didn't see any giraffes". Which is what I was doing. I sure wish I'd known that a few months ago.
But one of the articles was about a lady visiting her elder mom and the Mom recognized her name and even introduced her to some other residents by full name and even nickname, whish reassured the daughter that she was recognized. They went outside and were joined by another resident. They talked awhile and the daughter got up to look at the flowers. She overheard the other resident ask her mom who she (daughter) was. The mom said "some lady from church".
That's when you know it really doesn't matter if you don't visit anymore...
The lady in the article mentioned that if your elder has a bad hip, the Dr hands you a pamphlet; if your elder needs a walker, they hand you a pamphlet; but if your elder is demented, they don't have a pamphlet. She said she sure could have used a pamphlet! I sure could have used a pamphlet too. But you all helped, and there WAS the internet for some research. Your help mattered more.
So when Sister visited Dad yesterday and she mentioned how I had provided his favorite snacks and such, and he couldn't remember being here, I wasn't completely caught by surprise. I thought it might be a month before he forgot being here, but 4 days? Wow.
I don't think there is any need for me to visit Dad in the future. I don't mean it as annoyed that he doesn't remember me, I just recognize that his memory of his time here (and me) is out of his memory now and that it is a natural progression of his dementia. His life will be moment-to-moment from here on out to his end. I accept that and it does not make me feel badly about him or myself. I am just glad that we got him into professional care at literally the Exact Right Day. There is something to be said for the random events in the universe acting in your favor occasionally.
OK, well, with all that past, I had a good day in the yard! But I think I will save that for tomorrow. I'll just end this with pictures of Dad...
His place in FL, completely forgotten after a few months.
Dad when he first arrived here. Moderately sensible.
He even allowed Iza up on his lap. But he stopped allowing that very suddenly.
He mostly dozed through the days after that. And, no, not a stroke.
Became less aware of his surroundings...
He always did love bread for some reason. He admired this perfectly-cooked loaf and wanted to show it off. He often spoke of his Mom baking bread, so I'm sure it was a good memory. He liked that the bread was warm too.
He began to complain about Iza liking to get too close to him (as she does all people) in Winter. That's where he really began to fall apart mentally.
And, again, Dad going into Sister's car to go the the assisted living facility...
After a year of wearing thin shirts that were too light for the house temperature (74F), he suddenly began wearing clothes that were too warm for the temperature (76F and humid).
I guess I'm pretty much saying goodbye to him now. If I visited him now, he would probably think I was "some guy from the hardware store" and I probably don't need to drive 90 miles to hear that. I will love him as he was years ago, and with the best parts of the last year when his memory temporarily worked, and the memory that I did my part in his final year or so. I have formally passed Dad off to the care of Sister and the assisted living care facility.
Sister will let me know how his days go and when his final days approach. I will be there at the end if there is at least 2 hours notice. I expect that, one of these days, he simply won't wake up. That's sure not the worst way to go.
Tomorrow, I get back to reporting on yard and house projects, and I'm already on my way! I got some good things done today and will report on them tomorrow.
The Washington Post newspaper had a good series of articles about elder dementia. Things like (paraphrased) my elderly mother said she saw giraffes in the yard and when we suggested maybe she saw some deer, said I know what giraffes look like. Then they pointed out that asking detailed question sometimes helps the false memory fade quickly. Like "which way were they going, what were they eating, etc". Not "no. you didn't see any giraffes". Which is what I was doing. I sure wish I'd known that a few months ago.
But one of the articles was about a lady visiting her elder mom and the Mom recognized her name and even introduced her to some other residents by full name and even nickname, whish reassured the daughter that she was recognized. They went outside and were joined by another resident. They talked awhile and the daughter got up to look at the flowers. She overheard the other resident ask her mom who she (daughter) was. The mom said "some lady from church".
That's when you know it really doesn't matter if you don't visit anymore...
The lady in the article mentioned that if your elder has a bad hip, the Dr hands you a pamphlet; if your elder needs a walker, they hand you a pamphlet; but if your elder is demented, they don't have a pamphlet. She said she sure could have used a pamphlet! I sure could have used a pamphlet too. But you all helped, and there WAS the internet for some research. Your help mattered more.
So when Sister visited Dad yesterday and she mentioned how I had provided his favorite snacks and such, and he couldn't remember being here, I wasn't completely caught by surprise. I thought it might be a month before he forgot being here, but 4 days? Wow.
I don't think there is any need for me to visit Dad in the future. I don't mean it as annoyed that he doesn't remember me, I just recognize that his memory of his time here (and me) is out of his memory now and that it is a natural progression of his dementia. His life will be moment-to-moment from here on out to his end. I accept that and it does not make me feel badly about him or myself. I am just glad that we got him into professional care at literally the Exact Right Day. There is something to be said for the random events in the universe acting in your favor occasionally.
OK, well, with all that past, I had a good day in the yard! But I think I will save that for tomorrow. I'll just end this with pictures of Dad...
His place in FL, completely forgotten after a few months.
I guess I'm pretty much saying goodbye to him now. If I visited him now, he would probably think I was "some guy from the hardware store" and I probably don't need to drive 90 miles to hear that. I will love him as he was years ago, and with the best parts of the last year when his memory temporarily worked, and the memory that I did my part in his final year or so. I have formally passed Dad off to the care of Sister and the assisted living care facility.
Sister will let me know how his days go and when his final days approach. I will be there at the end if there is at least 2 hours notice. I expect that, one of these days, he simply won't wake up. That's sure not the worst way to go.
Tomorrow, I get back to reporting on yard and house projects, and I'm already on my way! I got some good things done today and will report on them tomorrow.
Friday, April 19, 2013
Some Improvements
I had a "Noon to 4" appointment for the new oven to be delivered. Would you believe they called at 10:30 am and said they would arrive in 30 minutes? No? Well they did! They came in, measured the space (better to know if there was an error before they brought the new one in, I suppose), took the old one out, and brought in the new one.
They set it in place, but it was an inch below the countertop, so I insisted they pull it back out and raise the levelers at the bottom. I understand that their only desire is to get in and out as fast as possible, but I'll be living with the thing another 15 years, LOL! So they did that. Then I slapped a spirit level on the top and it was a bit high in the back. So they raised the front a bit more. Then, I pulled on the back and it seemed to wobble just a little. They pulled on the bottom and it didn't. We realized it the the hinged stovetop that was moving slightly so they tightened it a bit.
It's worth being a bit fussy sometimes!
So now I have a working oven again.
Wow, when they said it was "black" I didn't realize HOW black! My old one was "black" too, but it had a white top.
Isn't it nice to have an oven looking so clean?
BTW, you notice that the bottom rack looks a bit thick and complicated? It pulls out on rollers! Is that neat or what? Tomorrow, I'll see how accurate the temperature setting is using my good oven thermometers. The old one was 20F off and I always had to keep that in mind. I hope one is really accurate.
The other nice change is the new integrated stereo amplifier (from my POV, it means it controls whether you are listening to CDs or radio). The old one had a volume control problem. You had to really fuss with it to get both speakers working, it would suddenly change on its own, and the speakers sounded fuzzy. So I searched on Amazon.com for a replacement and couldn't figure out what to replace it with.
Do you remember that old commercial where a guy sits back in his recliner and turns on his fancy superstereo and his hair blows back from the volume? I'm not that guy. I bought a modest bundled system in a cabinet 35 years ago. I did add a CD player a decade ago, but I really don't understand the components. I want to just press a CD or tuner button and hear something clearly.
So I took a trip to Best Buy so I could actually talk to someone. And yes, if I go to a store and get good advice, that's where I purchase. So I explained that the volume control was broken, that the speakers might be bad AND I wanted to combine the stereo system with the cable TV. The guy there recommended that I get a new amp that could process the cable TV, and see if the speakers were good through that. Good honest person!
There were 2 Pioneer amps he showed me. One at $349 and one at $499. When I asked him what the difference was, he said the expensive one was the newer year model and the difference was "entirely cosmetic". Wow... I'm surprised he can keep his job. I'll have to go back and fill out one of those "good employee cards".
So I got the amp and spent an hour installing it. Not the amp's fault, I had to rearrange the holding racks in the cabinet (and I pulled out that useless cassette deck). One thing I DON'T like about it is that the component control is a dial that offers everything from the usual stereo choices to DVD to internet radio settings (and I don't even KNOW what "BD" means, except I'm pretty sure it is NOT that guy in Doonesbury). I'd rather have dedicated buttons like on the old one. But since this thing does a dozen things, that would start to be a lot of buttons.
Still, this new component may pull me (not exactly kicking and screaming) into the 21st century. I have the HDTV, the amp is internet-ready, etc. If I connect the TV to the stereo and put a wireless connection on it with a wireless keyboard, I could do a lot of surfing right there at the TV. I might even look into streaming TV.
But mainly, it was nice to discover that my old DCM speakers are just fine. I put on Pictures at an Exhibition (Mussorgsky). It sounded great! My hair even blew back just a little... ;)
I think I'll try Inna-Gadda-Da-Vida later, followed by Jesus Christ: Superstar. It's been a year since I could listen to stuff like that.
UPDATE: It occurs to me I should mention brands and model numbers, just in case anyone wants to know. The oven is a GE JBS35 30" electric coil model, the top rated one by Consumer Reports and sure not the priciest one listed. (wow look at those smoothtop and induction ones!) And since I have not the remotest connection to GE, I hope Consumer Reports won't mind me mentioning that. If they do, I'll edit it to say that "a highly regarding CONSUMER magazine REPORTS that it was top rated in its category", LOL! I am very dedicated to Consumer Reports ratings. They and Angie's List have never failed me yet.
The integrated stereo amplifier is a Pioneer VSX-42, for whatever that is worth. Evidently, stereo systems are so antiquated that Consumer Reports doesn't even rate them anymore. I couldn't even find any in the last 3 years of their buying guide. But it seems to be a good one even though the newer 2013 one is the old one with a fancier digital display.
And I couldn't get my old tuner to work with the new amp. It seems to have a tuner built in, but I LOVE the old one with its dedicated preset buttons. Well, I unplugged the old tuner and plugged in the FM antenna that came with the new amp. Voila! Music! I still want to figure out how to use the old tuner though.
They set it in place, but it was an inch below the countertop, so I insisted they pull it back out and raise the levelers at the bottom. I understand that their only desire is to get in and out as fast as possible, but I'll be living with the thing another 15 years, LOL! So they did that. Then I slapped a spirit level on the top and it was a bit high in the back. So they raised the front a bit more. Then, I pulled on the back and it seemed to wobble just a little. They pulled on the bottom and it didn't. We realized it the the hinged stovetop that was moving slightly so they tightened it a bit.
It's worth being a bit fussy sometimes!
So now I have a working oven again.
Wow, when they said it was "black" I didn't realize HOW black! My old one was "black" too, but it had a white top.
The other nice change is the new integrated stereo amplifier (from my POV, it means it controls whether you are listening to CDs or radio). The old one had a volume control problem. You had to really fuss with it to get both speakers working, it would suddenly change on its own, and the speakers sounded fuzzy. So I searched on Amazon.com for a replacement and couldn't figure out what to replace it with.
Do you remember that old commercial where a guy sits back in his recliner and turns on his fancy superstereo and his hair blows back from the volume? I'm not that guy. I bought a modest bundled system in a cabinet 35 years ago. I did add a CD player a decade ago, but I really don't understand the components. I want to just press a CD or tuner button and hear something clearly.
So I took a trip to Best Buy so I could actually talk to someone. And yes, if I go to a store and get good advice, that's where I purchase. So I explained that the volume control was broken, that the speakers might be bad AND I wanted to combine the stereo system with the cable TV. The guy there recommended that I get a new amp that could process the cable TV, and see if the speakers were good through that. Good honest person!
There were 2 Pioneer amps he showed me. One at $349 and one at $499. When I asked him what the difference was, he said the expensive one was the newer year model and the difference was "entirely cosmetic". Wow... I'm surprised he can keep his job. I'll have to go back and fill out one of those "good employee cards".
So I got the amp and spent an hour installing it. Not the amp's fault, I had to rearrange the holding racks in the cabinet (and I pulled out that useless cassette deck). One thing I DON'T like about it is that the component control is a dial that offers everything from the usual stereo choices to DVD to internet radio settings (and I don't even KNOW what "BD" means, except I'm pretty sure it is NOT that guy in Doonesbury). I'd rather have dedicated buttons like on the old one. But since this thing does a dozen things, that would start to be a lot of buttons.
Still, this new component may pull me (not exactly kicking and screaming) into the 21st century. I have the HDTV, the amp is internet-ready, etc. If I connect the TV to the stereo and put a wireless connection on it with a wireless keyboard, I could do a lot of surfing right there at the TV. I might even look into streaming TV.
But mainly, it was nice to discover that my old DCM speakers are just fine. I put on Pictures at an Exhibition (Mussorgsky). It sounded great! My hair even blew back just a little... ;)
I think I'll try Inna-Gadda-Da-Vida later, followed by Jesus Christ: Superstar. It's been a year since I could listen to stuff like that.
UPDATE: It occurs to me I should mention brands and model numbers, just in case anyone wants to know. The oven is a GE JBS35 30" electric coil model, the top rated one by Consumer Reports and sure not the priciest one listed. (wow look at those smoothtop and induction ones!) And since I have not the remotest connection to GE, I hope Consumer Reports won't mind me mentioning that. If they do, I'll edit it to say that "a highly regarding CONSUMER magazine REPORTS that it was top rated in its category", LOL! I am very dedicated to Consumer Reports ratings. They and Angie's List have never failed me yet.
The integrated stereo amplifier is a Pioneer VSX-42, for whatever that is worth. Evidently, stereo systems are so antiquated that Consumer Reports doesn't even rate them anymore. I couldn't even find any in the last 3 years of their buying guide. But it seems to be a good one even though the newer 2013 one is the old one with a fancier digital display.
And I couldn't get my old tuner to work with the new amp. It seems to have a tuner built in, but I LOVE the old one with its dedicated preset buttons. Well, I unplugged the old tuner and plugged in the FM antenna that came with the new amp. Voila! Music! I still want to figure out how to use the old tuner though.
Bye Bye Dadio
Yesterday...
Well, my sister and BIL picked up Dad and all his stuff today. I had all his stuff packed.
Dad put on a warm shirt "because its cold out there". It was 76 and humid...
BIL secures all the stuff. We had to redo it because of Dad's rollercart.
Dad leaves the house ad Sister escorts Dad along the sidewalk.
Dad inspects the packing job and makes suggestions.
Dad finally gets in the car...
And then they all wave goodbye. Dad waved behind the back window, but you can't see him.
And away they went...
I'm sad that that Dad is going to the final assisted living place. So is he. But he beat the odds, you know? Not everyone reaches 91. He is proud of that, and I understand. If I live another 28 years, I'll be his age. I see my future in his stay with me.
Dad and I hugged before he got in the car. We cried a bit. Well, it was a serious year he stayed here, and I will never forget it. But he knows what his future is, and so do I.
He is suffering dementia, but he's not stupid. He KNOWS he doesn't understand things well anymore. He KNOWS he forgets things. Deep in his mind, he knows that things he thinks happen aren't accurate. He's said so, he's talked of it. As crazy and frustrating our discussions were at times, I understand how desperately he was trying to hang on to reality. And I know that he appreciates that I was trying to help him there. He said so, and I'm going to believe it. For the rest of my life...
The last moments we were together alone, he thanked me for taking such good care of him the past "couple months". Well, it was 11 months, but it wasn't a time to quibble. I know he meant "a long time". Sons and Fathers sometimes get awkward speaking to each other.
The assisted living facility is where he won't be challenged about time and accuracy of memories (which I did far too often). They will know how to speak to him in only the present tense and avoid all the inconvenient discussions of the past that I could not avoid at times.
In the past year, I learned some things about his life that I never really knew before. He did more civilian stuff in WWII than I realized. Like building ships. He had a patent on a gadget once. He was a real mechanical engineer. I knew some of that vaguely. but in our times, Dads didn't really bother to explain their careers to the kids. That is precious. He may have learned a few things about me, too. Like I "know science stuff", that I'm a (sort of) writer (he read a couple short stories I got published in a semi-vanity press and said "your mother said you wrote good stuff, but I had never read them before (meaning that he didn't care for it himself, but was impressed I wrote it) and that was good enough for me. He has admired all the daffodils he saw this last month that I planted in past years. He was never here at this time of year before. He said, "you care about beauty, like your Mom".
And he said he was surprised I like Escher prints (4 hanging on the walls the whole year). Very "engineerish" he said.
I think it was all a final compliment as he left. Things he never said to me before. At 62, I don't really need validation. But I don't mind it either. You probably can't ever not like validation from your Dad.
He will be a "resident", not a parent, at the assisted living facility. Someone they will care for and not challenge sometimes in frustration as I sometimes did. They will not care about (or know about) the parent/child dynamics. And that will be good for him. Dad will end his days only around people like him to talk to and a staff dedicated to just taking care of him.
And now I have to figure out what to do with this blog...
Vote for the best thing...
1. Keep talking about Dad (what little I learn).
2. Get back to the pre-Dad yardwork and house projects.
3. Get WAY back and become a liberal political pest.
Well, my sister and BIL picked up Dad and all his stuff today. I had all his stuff packed.
I'm sad that that Dad is going to the final assisted living place. So is he. But he beat the odds, you know? Not everyone reaches 91. He is proud of that, and I understand. If I live another 28 years, I'll be his age. I see my future in his stay with me.
Dad and I hugged before he got in the car. We cried a bit. Well, it was a serious year he stayed here, and I will never forget it. But he knows what his future is, and so do I.
He is suffering dementia, but he's not stupid. He KNOWS he doesn't understand things well anymore. He KNOWS he forgets things. Deep in his mind, he knows that things he thinks happen aren't accurate. He's said so, he's talked of it. As crazy and frustrating our discussions were at times, I understand how desperately he was trying to hang on to reality. And I know that he appreciates that I was trying to help him there. He said so, and I'm going to believe it. For the rest of my life...
The last moments we were together alone, he thanked me for taking such good care of him the past "couple months". Well, it was 11 months, but it wasn't a time to quibble. I know he meant "a long time". Sons and Fathers sometimes get awkward speaking to each other.
The assisted living facility is where he won't be challenged about time and accuracy of memories (which I did far too often). They will know how to speak to him in only the present tense and avoid all the inconvenient discussions of the past that I could not avoid at times.
In the past year, I learned some things about his life that I never really knew before. He did more civilian stuff in WWII than I realized. Like building ships. He had a patent on a gadget once. He was a real mechanical engineer. I knew some of that vaguely. but in our times, Dads didn't really bother to explain their careers to the kids. That is precious. He may have learned a few things about me, too. Like I "know science stuff", that I'm a (sort of) writer (he read a couple short stories I got published in a semi-vanity press and said "your mother said you wrote good stuff, but I had never read them before (meaning that he didn't care for it himself, but was impressed I wrote it) and that was good enough for me. He has admired all the daffodils he saw this last month that I planted in past years. He was never here at this time of year before. He said, "you care about beauty, like your Mom".
And he said he was surprised I like Escher prints (4 hanging on the walls the whole year). Very "engineerish" he said.
I think it was all a final compliment as he left. Things he never said to me before. At 62, I don't really need validation. But I don't mind it either. You probably can't ever not like validation from your Dad.
He will be a "resident", not a parent, at the assisted living facility. Someone they will care for and not challenge sometimes in frustration as I sometimes did. They will not care about (or know about) the parent/child dynamics. And that will be good for him. Dad will end his days only around people like him to talk to and a staff dedicated to just taking care of him.
And now I have to figure out what to do with this blog...
Vote for the best thing...
1. Keep talking about Dad (what little I learn).
2. Get back to the pre-Dad yardwork and house projects.
3. Get WAY back and become a liberal political pest.
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Moving Day Minus One
Oops, this was supposed to be posted yesterday. So pretend it was and I'll put up today's post tomorrow...
It felt strange packing up Dad's stuff today. It wasn't that there was all that much (there wasn't - he came up here with what fit in a sedan and he is leaving with less), it was the act of preparing to have him leave tomorrow.
I'm a bit torn about the whole thing. Sometimes he refers to me "kicking him out", which is not very nice. But I understand that he would very much prefer to remain in a regular house with a family member. Moving in with a bunch of strangers has to be scary.
At the same time, he generally understands that he needs more professional care (if not today, then soon). Sometimes I too wish that I could take care of him for longer (to delay this inevitable final move). But I can tell that I can't take care of him much longer without turning myself into a full time nurse and I don't have the training or experience to do it much longer anyway. Heck, I can't even simply pick him up when he falls.
I'm not feeling exactly guilty. Indeed, I will be relieved to be free of the responsibility. I will be relieved to not have to be around the house as much as possible, to not have to explain why I am leaving it and for how long and why. I will enjoy being able to just go outside without worrying he will fall and hurt himself while I'm out.
I am relieved that he is taking this change in his life as well as he is. When I first talked to him about assisted-care living, he said he didn't think I could make him leave. I envisioned having to nearly carry him to the car and driving him away screaming he was being kidnapped (as he nearly did when my brother and I moved him from FL to here). At least now, he seems quietly resigned to the necessity of the move. He also understands that this move will eventually end in hospice care at the "end".
But it will feel odd not to have him here. I'll have to re-learn my old habits. I'll be eating WHEN I feel like it, eating WHAT I feel like, going out WHEN I want, staying up as LATE as I feel like, getting up WHEN I feel like, etc. I may even start playing golf and going fishing again. I didn't do those last things the year before he arrived, but for the last year I felt like I couldn't, which is a big difference.
I will focus on the thoughts that he will have better personal care and more companionship. I will focus on the thought that, after a couple of weeks, he will actually be happier in assisted care (something I have been told by many to be "almost universally" true. I will focus on the thought that, after a month or so, he will forget he was ever here (his memory of his place in FL was gone after only 3 months and his memory is much worse now). Very soon, his memories will be only day-to-day and of events decades ago. His recent past will just be absent.
There is most of the family nearby where he is moving. I will probably visit every month. The day he doesn't remember who I am, I will stop visiting. I won't be visiting for my benefit. I don't have to see him to love him as my Dad.
He will eventually forget being here and who I am. But I will remember this past year...
It felt strange packing up Dad's stuff today. It wasn't that there was all that much (there wasn't - he came up here with what fit in a sedan and he is leaving with less), it was the act of preparing to have him leave tomorrow.
I'm a bit torn about the whole thing. Sometimes he refers to me "kicking him out", which is not very nice. But I understand that he would very much prefer to remain in a regular house with a family member. Moving in with a bunch of strangers has to be scary.
At the same time, he generally understands that he needs more professional care (if not today, then soon). Sometimes I too wish that I could take care of him for longer (to delay this inevitable final move). But I can tell that I can't take care of him much longer without turning myself into a full time nurse and I don't have the training or experience to do it much longer anyway. Heck, I can't even simply pick him up when he falls.
I'm not feeling exactly guilty. Indeed, I will be relieved to be free of the responsibility. I will be relieved to not have to be around the house as much as possible, to not have to explain why I am leaving it and for how long and why. I will enjoy being able to just go outside without worrying he will fall and hurt himself while I'm out.
I am relieved that he is taking this change in his life as well as he is. When I first talked to him about assisted-care living, he said he didn't think I could make him leave. I envisioned having to nearly carry him to the car and driving him away screaming he was being kidnapped (as he nearly did when my brother and I moved him from FL to here). At least now, he seems quietly resigned to the necessity of the move. He also understands that this move will eventually end in hospice care at the "end".
But it will feel odd not to have him here. I'll have to re-learn my old habits. I'll be eating WHEN I feel like it, eating WHAT I feel like, going out WHEN I want, staying up as LATE as I feel like, getting up WHEN I feel like, etc. I may even start playing golf and going fishing again. I didn't do those last things the year before he arrived, but for the last year I felt like I couldn't, which is a big difference.
I will focus on the thoughts that he will have better personal care and more companionship. I will focus on the thought that, after a couple of weeks, he will actually be happier in assisted care (something I have been told by many to be "almost universally" true. I will focus on the thought that, after a month or so, he will forget he was ever here (his memory of his place in FL was gone after only 3 months and his memory is much worse now). Very soon, his memories will be only day-to-day and of events decades ago. His recent past will just be absent.
There is most of the family nearby where he is moving. I will probably visit every month. The day he doesn't remember who I am, I will stop visiting. I won't be visiting for my benefit. I don't have to see him to love him as my Dad.
He will eventually forget being here and who I am. But I will remember this past year...
Tuesday, April 16, 2013
Dad
I brought Dad to the geriatric Dr for a brief exam and getting the assisted living place medical evaluation form filled out. He says Dad is care level 1 (least care). The TB test results won't be known til Weds. If he has a lump a the site of the shot, it's positive. Extremely unlikely though.
Dad's blood pressure is 130/70. Might be better than mine. But his heart skips occasionally. Dr says Dad is in really good "condition for his condition". Well, yeah, he's 91 this month. You can't escape old age. He could maybe take an 81mg aspirin daily. But it was barely recommended. Almost 50-50.
So Dad has had a Dr exam, an eye exam, and a some slight dental work. He has some new clothes that fit him, new socks, and I am getting his prescriptions filled fully for another month and some new underwear. I got him to try on an old pair of my suspenders last evening, and he LOVES them! Well I have had them for 20 years because I love them. Neither of us have a real waist, and Dad has been pulling up his pants for month now. He showed the first "plumbers butt" yesterday, so the timing is perfect. Suspenders are great.
Sister and Hubby are coming down Thursday. Their pickup has a cover and tie downs and space behind the front seats inside for loose items. That relieves some of my concerns about tying small boxes down in the back. The move will go wonderfully.
I can't wait for the new stove to be delivered. I made pork stew and it took hours in the microwave. Cooked the pork last night, but the potatoes, carrots, celery, beans, and bell peppers tonight. The hardest part was making the "sauce" (cornstarch slurry, chicken buillion paste, herbs). The M/W is faster for what fits in it, but an oven is better for large amounts. I was a bit nervous about how it was all coming out. I have never made a stew in the M/V. But it turned out rather good. Not "best" but OK. One thing I have learned about chicken thighs and pork shoulders; they don't overcook easily.
I did learn that my personal dry rub for pork misses something without the meat being smoked. It was a bit on the too-sweet side.
Thinking about packing Dad's stuff...
Dad's blood pressure is 130/70. Might be better than mine. But his heart skips occasionally. Dr says Dad is in really good "condition for his condition". Well, yeah, he's 91 this month. You can't escape old age. He could maybe take an 81mg aspirin daily. But it was barely recommended. Almost 50-50.
So Dad has had a Dr exam, an eye exam, and a some slight dental work. He has some new clothes that fit him, new socks, and I am getting his prescriptions filled fully for another month and some new underwear. I got him to try on an old pair of my suspenders last evening, and he LOVES them! Well I have had them for 20 years because I love them. Neither of us have a real waist, and Dad has been pulling up his pants for month now. He showed the first "plumbers butt" yesterday, so the timing is perfect. Suspenders are great.
Sister and Hubby are coming down Thursday. Their pickup has a cover and tie downs and space behind the front seats inside for loose items. That relieves some of my concerns about tying small boxes down in the back. The move will go wonderfully.
I can't wait for the new stove to be delivered. I made pork stew and it took hours in the microwave. Cooked the pork last night, but the potatoes, carrots, celery, beans, and bell peppers tonight. The hardest part was making the "sauce" (cornstarch slurry, chicken buillion paste, herbs). The M/W is faster for what fits in it, but an oven is better for large amounts. I was a bit nervous about how it was all coming out. I have never made a stew in the M/V. But it turned out rather good. Not "best" but OK. One thing I have learned about chicken thighs and pork shoulders; they don't overcook easily.
I did learn that my personal dry rub for pork misses something without the meat being smoked. It was a bit on the too-sweet side.
Thinking about packing Dad's stuff...
Monday, April 15, 2013
Busy, But Relaxed
Its gardening time. There are things I need to get done. First is getting a couple bucketloads of compost in my trailer to add the the garden. And then I need to add that stuff in the beds and turn the soil to mix it in.
I spread corn gluten around the lawn and flowerbeds today. One bag in the old toolshed had gotten wet and wouldn't spread. Big clumps. But there is always SOMETHING to do with anything. There was one removed tree that I had the tree team grind up the roots (they were exposed). And you know what breaks down shredded tree bits? Nitrogen. And you know what the corn gluten is? Nitrogen. So I put the unspreadable corn gluten on the pile of shredded tree roots! Raked them in well.
I had pelletized corn gluten in the basement, and spread that around. It stops seeds from growing. Actually, it stops that one initial seed root from growing. Corn gluten is a dipepside and causes that. I have no idea why. But it works.
Later today, I have to get Dad to a Dr evaluation for the assisted care facility test. The eye Dr says his glasses are good. Great. I am buying him some new clothes too. The pants he has are SO tight around his waist he can't clasp them and he thinks that is normal. What he NEEDS is a looser waist and suspenders, but he cant manage the suspenders. Dressing Dad is like trying to put clothes on a cat. At least the new pants I got fit around his waist and the shortened ones fit his legs. So he has 3 pairs that fit him well.
3 days till Dad leaves... It feels odd.
I spread corn gluten around the lawn and flowerbeds today. One bag in the old toolshed had gotten wet and wouldn't spread. Big clumps. But there is always SOMETHING to do with anything. There was one removed tree that I had the tree team grind up the roots (they were exposed). And you know what breaks down shredded tree bits? Nitrogen. And you know what the corn gluten is? Nitrogen. So I put the unspreadable corn gluten on the pile of shredded tree roots! Raked them in well.
I had pelletized corn gluten in the basement, and spread that around. It stops seeds from growing. Actually, it stops that one initial seed root from growing. Corn gluten is a dipepside and causes that. I have no idea why. But it works.
Later today, I have to get Dad to a Dr evaluation for the assisted care facility test. The eye Dr says his glasses are good. Great. I am buying him some new clothes too. The pants he has are SO tight around his waist he can't clasp them and he thinks that is normal. What he NEEDS is a looser waist and suspenders, but he cant manage the suspenders. Dressing Dad is like trying to put clothes on a cat. At least the new pants I got fit around his waist and the shortened ones fit his legs. So he has 3 pairs that fit him well.
3 days till Dad leaves... It feels odd.
Sunday, April 14, 2013
When It Rains It Pours.
Dad's move the assisted care house is still on track. Let me get that out of the way fast. But you would think it was the first Monday after a vacation the way the rest of things poured down.
First, the electric oven decided to burn itself up. I turned it on a 4 pm to slow-roast a pork shoulder (aka Boston Butt). I noticed a bright light inside and when I opened the door to look, I discovered the "W" shaped coil at the bottom was... melting. I you have ever seen arc-welding on TV, that's how it looked. And the hot spot was slowly moving along the coil
After a minute, I decided to shoot it with the all-purpose fire-extinguisher and close the oven door to smother it. I tried it once, twice, three times and the hot arc melting wouldn't stop! So I called the fire department for advice. They said they were on their way. I told them it was a single story residence, the house wasn't on fire, etc, I just needed to know what to DO about this odd problem.
I tossed Iza and Marley and Dad out into the back yard and locked Ayla in the computer room (because that's where she ran and hid). then opened the doors and windows. Well, there was smoke from the burning heater coil and I didn't know what was in the fumes
They arrived in just minutes. With a hook and ladder truck and a hose truck (really?). I had asked for an advisor in a car, but I guess its fun to pull out all the heavy equipment and drive the stuff around with the lights flashing and the horns blaring and the 27 8x10 colored glossy photographs (oh wait, that's a different story). But I wasn't going to let them in the house with a fire house (very messy PLUS it was an electrical problem).
Three guys came in (full gear) to look at the oven. One had an infrared thermometer and said the insides were 650 F. I had turned the oven off, of course, but we tripped the circuit breaker too, to be safe. They pulled the oven out from the wall and examined it. I mentioned the possible toxic fumes, but none of the guys had the slightest idea what the heater coil was made of. Since it hadn't killed me, I decided to ignore it.
Their advice was to let the oven cool down and then replace it. I don't mean to be sarcastic about guys that DO risk their lives, but I couldn't help an "Ooh, you think?" moment.
It took about 1 1/2 hours to clean that damn fire extinguisher powder from the kitchen. I regret using it, but like the guy who jumped onto the cactus said "It seemed like a good idea at the time". I mopped the floor, I cleaned behind the pulled-out oven, I washed everything exposed on the counters, then I washed the counters.
You know what Dad said? "The floor is wet" and "When's dinner"?
So I set about making dinner. With no stove... I set about cooking some Italian sausage, corn, kale, and a potato. Do you have any idea how long that takes using a microwave oven? I had to cook EVERYTHING separately (its a very small M/V). THEN I had to reheat everything on Dad's plate, THEN reheat everything on mine. Dad complained that dinner was late. I'm not sure he remembers that the oven burned up. And I'm not going to ask; I just won't have to worry about his memory in 5 days!
I have my Consumer Reports 2013 Guide out on the dining table to get a new oven...
I got a call from Dad's tax preparers. They filed an extension for Dad, but he needs to sent a $3,000+ check by their best estimate.
Then Brother called to arrange to pick up Dad Thursday. The idea he needed to transport Dad's bed and "stuff" was a complete surprise to him (he said). Sister told me later she had discussed all those details with him. But the highlight of the telephone call was that he needed $10K for his daughters wedding. Oops, sorry, I'll help out with medical problems and college and taxes, but celebrations are his problem. So he asked if Dad would help and I promised to give it my best sales pitch.
So I should mention that the unofficial stepdad of another of Dad's grandkids was looking for help with college tuition for a grandkid last week. I had said that Dad is too confused these days, but decided to bring up both requests. I consider college a lot more valuable than wedding ceremonies featuring lobster tails. But I know that weddings matter too.
I spent 2 hours this evening squatting by Dad's chair and talking to him about the requests. My knees STILL hurt. I went in endless circles about who his grandkids were, what they needed, and how much help he felt comfortable providing. Dad has such a hard time making decisions and keeping track of details. I try to help (endlessly endlessly, endlessly), but when it comes to checks, he still has to agree to sign them, so he has to agree. I tell him the requests, I tell him the situations, and offer him simple choices.
He decided that equal help to both grand-daughters was best. $2700 to each. So then I had to call the Dead Sister's SO who is taking care of her kids (not his) AND Brother who is looking for wedding money for his dearest eldest daughter.
I've sure had better days... And, BTW, Dead Sister's SO said "Oh thank your Dad SO much for helping out" Brother declined the check for his daughter's wedding saying he would "work on Dad
on the drive to the assisted care house...
Guess who I like better?
Its not about me. Yeah, the past year feels like to push string all the time, but I can handle that. It's almost just like another day at my old office. Problems to solve, difficult people to talk into doing what is needed, etc.
I know some other people have worse days; cancer, divorce, death, etc.
But I sure will be happy Thursday!
First, the electric oven decided to burn itself up. I turned it on a 4 pm to slow-roast a pork shoulder (aka Boston Butt). I noticed a bright light inside and when I opened the door to look, I discovered the "W" shaped coil at the bottom was... melting. I you have ever seen arc-welding on TV, that's how it looked. And the hot spot was slowly moving along the coil
After a minute, I decided to shoot it with the all-purpose fire-extinguisher and close the oven door to smother it. I tried it once, twice, three times and the hot arc melting wouldn't stop! So I called the fire department for advice. They said they were on their way. I told them it was a single story residence, the house wasn't on fire, etc, I just needed to know what to DO about this odd problem.
I tossed Iza and Marley and Dad out into the back yard and locked Ayla in the computer room (because that's where she ran and hid). then opened the doors and windows. Well, there was smoke from the burning heater coil and I didn't know what was in the fumes
They arrived in just minutes. With a hook and ladder truck and a hose truck (really?). I had asked for an advisor in a car, but I guess its fun to pull out all the heavy equipment and drive the stuff around with the lights flashing and the horns blaring and the 27 8x10 colored glossy photographs (oh wait, that's a different story). But I wasn't going to let them in the house with a fire house (very messy PLUS it was an electrical problem).
Three guys came in (full gear) to look at the oven. One had an infrared thermometer and said the insides were 650 F. I had turned the oven off, of course, but we tripped the circuit breaker too, to be safe. They pulled the oven out from the wall and examined it. I mentioned the possible toxic fumes, but none of the guys had the slightest idea what the heater coil was made of. Since it hadn't killed me, I decided to ignore it.
Their advice was to let the oven cool down and then replace it. I don't mean to be sarcastic about guys that DO risk their lives, but I couldn't help an "Ooh, you think?" moment.
It took about 1 1/2 hours to clean that damn fire extinguisher powder from the kitchen. I regret using it, but like the guy who jumped onto the cactus said "It seemed like a good idea at the time". I mopped the floor, I cleaned behind the pulled-out oven, I washed everything exposed on the counters, then I washed the counters.
You know what Dad said? "The floor is wet" and "When's dinner"?
So I set about making dinner. With no stove... I set about cooking some Italian sausage, corn, kale, and a potato. Do you have any idea how long that takes using a microwave oven? I had to cook EVERYTHING separately (its a very small M/V). THEN I had to reheat everything on Dad's plate, THEN reheat everything on mine. Dad complained that dinner was late. I'm not sure he remembers that the oven burned up. And I'm not going to ask; I just won't have to worry about his memory in 5 days!
I have my Consumer Reports 2013 Guide out on the dining table to get a new oven...
I got a call from Dad's tax preparers. They filed an extension for Dad, but he needs to sent a $3,000+ check by their best estimate.
Then Brother called to arrange to pick up Dad Thursday. The idea he needed to transport Dad's bed and "stuff" was a complete surprise to him (he said). Sister told me later she had discussed all those details with him. But the highlight of the telephone call was that he needed $10K for his daughters wedding. Oops, sorry, I'll help out with medical problems and college and taxes, but celebrations are his problem. So he asked if Dad would help and I promised to give it my best sales pitch.
So I should mention that the unofficial stepdad of another of Dad's grandkids was looking for help with college tuition for a grandkid last week. I had said that Dad is too confused these days, but decided to bring up both requests. I consider college a lot more valuable than wedding ceremonies featuring lobster tails. But I know that weddings matter too.
I spent 2 hours this evening squatting by Dad's chair and talking to him about the requests. My knees STILL hurt. I went in endless circles about who his grandkids were, what they needed, and how much help he felt comfortable providing. Dad has such a hard time making decisions and keeping track of details. I try to help (endlessly endlessly, endlessly), but when it comes to checks, he still has to agree to sign them, so he has to agree. I tell him the requests, I tell him the situations, and offer him simple choices.
He decided that equal help to both grand-daughters was best. $2700 to each. So then I had to call the Dead Sister's SO who is taking care of her kids (not his) AND Brother who is looking for wedding money for his dearest eldest daughter.
I've sure had better days... And, BTW, Dead Sister's SO said "Oh thank your Dad SO much for helping out" Brother declined the check for his daughter's wedding saying he would "work on Dad
on the drive to the assisted care house...
Guess who I like better?
Its not about me. Yeah, the past year feels like to push string all the time, but I can handle that. It's almost just like another day at my old office. Problems to solve, difficult people to talk into doing what is needed, etc.
I know some other people have worse days; cancer, divorce, death, etc.
But I sure will be happy Thursday!
Friday, April 12, 2013
Taxes
I am gonna say that H&R Block tax software is GREAT. Others might be great too. But H&R tells you what the next questions are going to be, them asks them. Its pretty much impossible to get the questions wrong. Geez, they even tell you on THIS form, put the number in 1A here and 1B there, etc.
It only took an hour and a half and I had investments to include. Adding up all the columns on the investment report (most of which have nothing to do with earnings) took 15 minutes. Can you believe an investment company that basically sends you a printed spreadsheet and DOESNT have the sense to put totals at the bottom! But I filed electronically so that saved some time. That sure was better than standing in line at the PO for an hour...
It only took an hour and a half and I had investments to include. Adding up all the columns on the investment report (most of which have nothing to do with earnings) took 15 minutes. Can you believe an investment company that basically sends you a printed spreadsheet and DOESNT have the sense to put totals at the bottom! But I filed electronically so that saved some time. That sure was better than standing in line at the PO for an hour...
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