tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post8392544720224811133..comments2024-03-25T16:48:42.738-04:00Comments on CAVEBEAR'S LAIR: NeedinessMark's Mews (Marley, Lori, Loki, and Binq)http://www.blogger.com/profile/11135668126649348317noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-12993971749374356032013-03-08T08:15:10.060-05:002013-03-08T08:15:10.060-05:00It actually does sound as if he may need an "...It actually does sound as if he may need an "assisted-living facility" or at least some sort of respite care so you can have a break. It seems the list of things he cannot do is getting longer and longer. <br /><br />Hope you find some sort of solution. Alasandra, The Cats and Dogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14589200631693075320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-27192902215030613462013-02-27T01:33:37.210-05:002013-02-27T01:33:37.210-05:00Please please listen to your friends here and look...Please please listen to your friends here and look into respite care for your dad (and you)! My friend finally did it for her husband and it has made ALL the difference in her life - & consider Derby/Ducky's suggestion of an independent evaluation! T. Tina T-Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13054132355737998706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-74201467542387853142013-02-26T11:24:38.036-05:002013-02-26T11:24:38.036-05:00You might want to consider getting an independent ...You might want to consider getting an independent evaluation of what kind of care he needs. Asses if your home is the best environment for him or someplace else. <br /><br />Also, if you haven't already started this, look into places where can be be moved if it does get to that. So you are not scrambling at the last minute to find a suitable and reputable place for him.<br /><br />Just Duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03428843507549128138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-77498575225065079272013-02-25T19:27:19.355-05:002013-02-25T19:27:19.355-05:00I totally agree that you need a break, elder care,...I totally agree that you need a break, elder care, someone to care for your dad for a few hours a day so you can go out and do things, something. <br />But please, do not think you are alone in being alone in giving care. A lot of people who care for an elder parent do so just like you, alone, unappreciated, little to no respite, and it wears them out, breaks them down.. So if you don't have someone to help, you are going to have to get someone before too long. <br />And really, if he has someone else to 'visit' with, it'll take a lot of pressure off of you. He'll have something to look forward to, even if he doesnt like it, it's still something that's happening out of the ordinary, he'll have something to talk about. And you'll get a break. <br />Can your sister come in even once a week? I don't recall if she lives close or not.. <br />If he's agitated when you go shopping, he may need a caregiver for those times, his insurance might even have a provision for that. Trust me, it's worth looking into. Andrea and the Celestial Kittieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942189938392720055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-85312835953774946652013-02-25T08:21:53.344-05:002013-02-25T08:21:53.344-05:00I really like what Triah said in her Katnip Lounge...I really like what Triah said in her Katnip Lounge comment. I would have said a similar thing. Katie Isabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04298277081648176277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-2661514711929513132013-02-24T23:23:50.530-05:002013-02-24T23:23:50.530-05:00Oh I feel for you
Hang in there you are doing grea...Oh I feel for you<br />Hang in there you are doing great!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08349527615197248660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-57952534473250358042013-02-24T22:43:25.097-05:002013-02-24T22:43:25.097-05:00I think the fact that you're "verbalizing...I think the fact that you're "verbalizing" your discontentedness is a sign that it's time for a break in your routine. No person can be expected to keep up your pace indefinitely--it's not defeatist to seek respite. I think some form of eldercare for your Dad--daily or hourly at your home--is an excellent idea. Don't let your later memories of your Dad be tainted by resentment.Katnip Loungehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276522333751867680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7525976427330328394.post-30403270163596086152013-02-24T22:27:38.139-05:002013-02-24T22:27:38.139-05:00You have every right to all of those feelings. N...You have every right to all of those feelings. Nothing is harder than being a caregiver to a parent with alzheimers. This might be a good time to see if there is a day care setting for alzheimers patients - somewhere where he could go where they play games, etc., - just a day or two a week or however much time you feel you need. It will make a world of difference to you. Maybe check with the doctor he goes to - they probably know of such a place. He might enjoy it too. My mother went about 3 days a week and it gave my dad a break (I lived 3 hours away and worked full time, so wasn't much help other than weekends.) Give it some thought. Mariodacatsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06040681324029176934noreply@blogger.com