First, thank you to everyone who commented about my recent house searches. The comments all made good sense (and they were easy to agree with since I was coming to that understanding myself). I have MUCH to like about my current house and LESS than I imagined to dislike. After enough years, you have everything where you want it. Minor problems seem larger than they really are. Sometimes it seems easier to escape them than just fix them.
I argue with myself about many things. I see both sides of issues and that can really make decision-making difficult. I've had friends for whom any question gave them an immediate answer which they acted upon with no further concerns. Personally, I thought they tended to make bad decisions sometimes, but at least they were never tortured by doubt.
But thinking too much about everything can lead to "analysis-paralysis" and that can be just as big a problem. You get to a close decision and you are STUCK in between. I recently saw a TV ad that used the term "FOBO" (Fear Of Better Options). I get that.
2 years ago, I looked at houses with County water and sewage and cable and large open yards with sunlight for gardening. Last year, I looked at rural lots of converted farmland that I could build a new home on. Starting from scratch in the yard and a new house that would outlast me seemed good. But all the lots I could find were surrounded by working farmland with overpowering fertilizer smells and I never found the open house structure I could afford (like 100'x50' for one-level living and a workshop attached and a garage. This year, I looked at large Ramblers about the size of my current size over a large open basement large enough for my woodworking equipment, and had a 2 car garage (one car, one boat).
The good house was on a lawn dome that fell off into ravines in back and the large side, the house with the good yard had crumbling foundations and obvious water problems in the basement, and the last one had a good yard but was smaller than my current house and, even filtered and softened, the water tasted bad. And was $150,000 more than my house is estimated
So I have decided to remain here for a while. Perhaps in a few years County water and sewage will be installed in more rural areas, the cable companies will expand, solar panels will become cheaper and more efficient, etc. But that time is not now.
There isn't a whole lot I can do about my lack of gardening sunlight, though some ideas occur to me. Putting up silver-painted sheet metal on the shady side would reflect a fair amount of sunlight back into the garden, for example.
There isn't much I can do about the trees. They are tall and narrow. It's not the overhanging branches; it is their sheer height. And it has been years since I asked about removing them. Perhaps paying to have them professionally removed and replacing them with flowering trees like dogwoods would work. I'll at least ask again.
And if that doesn't work, I do have the right to cut out all roots invading my soil. Since they are so close to the property line, that might kill them. And THEN I can offer them lower growing flowering trees that won't cause me problems. From the shade angles, all I need is that trees be not more than 20' high. The current ones are 50 to 75'.
As far as the house itself goes, most of the things that bother me are fixable through my own or contractor efforts. The basement bathroom I installed myself 20 years ago was a mistake, but it can also be removed. I've never used it except for storage. It goes back to when I paneled 3/4 of the basement and carpeted the area thinking I would have parties. I didn't throw parties and tore out the carpet in favor of a wood-working area, but the bathroom remains as dead space. The ancient refrigerator can go, in favor of a medium chest freezer in the cat room upstairs.
I have 3 rooms with original 30 year old carpeting. The master bedroom carpet is still oddly good (it gets so little use), but the other 2 are trashable and I'm thinking linoleum for the computer room (getting rid of the annoying chair mats) and tight pile carpet for the cat room).
I have new shingles on the roof, a new deck, new siding, and I have raised the front lawn to solve drainage problems. The asphalt driveway is deteriorating gradually; that can be removed and replaced with concrete.
My 25 year old perennial beds have less in them than my pictures show these days (which is why you have been seeing more pictures of potted deck plants this year). I can dig up the good plants, rototill the areas, replant the good ones and add more. But that is what I would be doing in a new place anyway, and with greater effort.
I could go on, but you get the idea. I was desiring to escape redoing and fixing things and just starting over. Starting over is neat and clean. Summer's Mom mentioned that HER passion was big beautiful houses and those are what she wants to spend her time and effort on. I when I lie in bed at night, thinking about what's not perfect about my house, my thoughts are on doing work to make it better.
I have reasons to want to move, but less than I thought a month ago. I'm staying. And if you are the kind of person who remembers things like this and I mention moving again next year, remind me about the past 3 years of searches. LOL!