Wednesday, May 7, 2014

To Move Or Not To Move

Every couple of years, I get an urge to move.  I've lived here since 1986.  I go through the same procedure.  Contact some random real estate agent in possible areas in Maryland, ask about available houses that might meet my desires, then give up and stay here.

I'm not doing it for the fun of it.  I analyze things reasonably well.  The equation is that the problems I want to leave behind are just about equal the the time, cost, and trouble of moving.  Staying in place just seems easier.

I keep coming up with lists and evaluating the lists is all subjective.  If they were numbers, the additions and subtractions would come out about "zero".  For example:

1.  I'm getting older so I'd like not to have stairs.  But spread-out 1 floor houses are more expensive.
2.  I'd like a open style house with 3' walls.  But that means everything has to stay clean.
3.  An open style house give more appearance of space.  But then there are few walls to put tall things up against.
4.  My gardening here is shaded too much by neighbors' trees, but a larger open yard costs more.
5.  My D-I-Y home improvement work over the years has not exactly been terrible, but not admirable either.  I can live with it a lot better than I could sell it to someone else.
6.  The things I dislike about the yard would be nice to escape.  But most of them also fixable.
7.  I know this house so intimately.  I can walk around here in the dark.  In a new house, it would take a year of turning on all the lights at night just to find the bathroom.
8.  Speaking of knowing the house, I knew last year that there was a problem with the A/C just by a slight change in the pitch of the sound.
9.  After 27 years, I have found about the best place for EVERYTHING! I can't imagine how long that would take in a new house.
10.  The cats know how not to get lost here.  That stands by itself as seriously important.  On the other hand, I kept Tinkerbelle inside for a month before I let her out on a harness/leash every day for a few weeks and she didn't get lost.
11.  I'm used to this place and the structures.  Like the 2 sheds.  They fit everything perfectly.  But there isn't anything here I can't replicate on a new property.  And a new larger one would be nicer than 2 old ones.
12.  My garage is so tight that I have only 6" on each side as I pull in.  That seems like a lot more than it is.  Naturally, I don't do that fast.  And I've managed to get some white garage paint on every car I've ever owned.  I could live with a larger garage.
13.  Living here 27 years also means I have long-standing relationships with a Dr, a Dentist, a Barber, etc.  I know where every store is.  The butchers and wineshops know me.  One special orders my favorite wine jusy for me.  Giving that up is hard.

But almost all of those statements could be reversed.  A new house means new possibilities for better arrangements.  No stairs would be easier in the coming years.  An open lot would let me apply the things I've learned about gardening to a new space.  I might find that a new house arrangement is much easier to move around in.   There is some excitement in designing new flowerbeds.  The cats might love the extra yard space and new places to explore.  Unlike when moving here, dead broke with my bank account flat-lined, I have money now (not much D-I-Y work needed).  And unlike when I moved here in my first house and didn't recognize the cheap, cheating ways of my builder, I have some experience in evaluating an existing house or especially one being built new. 

There are other issues.  I could have a solar energy roof and a geothermal heating/cooling system.  I could start with extreme energy-efficient appliances.  In short, I could go from 27 years ago to up-to-date all at once, and probably good enough for the rest of my independent life.  At some cost and a lot of effort...

So it's "familiarity" versus "excitement",  "no effort to stay here" versus "much work in moving".

So I'm asking of those of you who have moved and liked the decision, and those of you who have chosen not to moved and liked the decision, what do you think?  What did you like about your decision to move or not move.  Both decisions are valid, and I'm stuck between them.

I don't often ask for help in making my decisions, but I'm really on the bubble and could use some thoughts.



2 comments:

Fuzzy Tales said...

If I could move, I would in a heartbeat.

I have a townhouse condo, an end unit. Can't stand the neighbour noise, the neighbourhood noise, the heavy traffic noise (close to two major thoroughfares). Units were built as low-end, cheap rentals about 30 years ago, nothing up to code anymore. Everything inside desperately needs to be fixed, from a bathroom and kitchen gut to flooring top to bottom, trim work, etc. Leaky basement when it rains hard from one particular direction. Zero savings to tackle any of this and I wish now that when my ex and I split years ago that we just had sold the place, rather than me deciding to keep it.

So I feel rather stuck, without options.

However, you DO seem to have options, which is great. I can't help you make the decision, but I would suggest this: That you move only for something that is exponentially better than what you have now, for your Highest Good and the Highest Good of all Beings in your care. :-)

That's what I put out to the Universe every day, in my case. LOL.

Megan said...

I think, in the end, Mark it's about priorities. What are the 5 most important things to you when it comes to choosing somewhere to live. Once you're honest with yourself about those, then you have a basis for evaluating your current place against the kinds of places you might consider moving to.

The house I live in is just over 30 years' old. My husband and I are not the slightest bit interested in DIY/renovations and, being introverts (read 'hermits') we also dislike organising tradesmen to come to do work for us. As a result, while other homeowners around us have upgraded their kitchens, bathrooms, gardens etc, our place is all original - ie. dated and somewhat shabby with it.

But, although we would prefer to live in a gorgeous house with everything brand new and well designed etc etc, we know what's most important to us: peace and quiet, feeling safe in our neighbourhood, having ready access to good services (everything from a good municipal library to established relationships with doctors, dentists etc), nice outlook/aspect and a well-built, safe building.

This house gives us all of those things. The rest? Well, if we just knuckled under and made a commitment, we could get new carpet, bathrooms, kitchens etc. Clearly, those things aren't so important to us that we've been motivated to do anything about them! LOL

Good luck with your considerations.

Megan
Sydney, Australia

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